Ukudlala Amakhadi Incazelo Yamaphupho kanye Nencazelo Yamaphupho
Ungu ukuphupha mayelana nokudlala amakhadi? Kulesi sihloko, sixoxa ngezinye zezincazelo zamakhadi Incazelo yephupho. The umphuphi kungenzeka ukuthi uyaphupha ngokudlala amakhadi. Njengephepha aphrintwe kulo, amakhadi okudlala anesimo somzimba okungukuthi okwangempela kulabo abahlangabezana nakho. Yingakho abantu abaningi kangaka baphuphe mayelana namakhadi abawadlalayo noma okungenani bawacabangele. Abanye kungenzeka ukuthi badlala amakhadi nje kubo amaphupho.
Uma sicabanga ukudlala amaphupho amakhadi, amakhadi aphathekayo kanye nomdlalo kungase kufike engqondweni. Nokho, lezo zithombe, nakuba zinamandla, ngokuvamile kungase kuphazamise. Ngakho-ke, lowo ophuphayo angase afune ukubuka izithombe ezimzungezile kwezinye izinto. Lokhu kwakuzomsiza ukuba agxile ephusheni.
Amaphupho amaningi aqala ngokuthi umuntu ophuphayo asuke ekwenza noma akhumbule okuthile ahlangabezane nakho. Lokhu kuyiqiniso nangamaphupho ethu. Izinkumbulo zobuntwana zingaveza okuthile ngezimpilo zethu noma izimo zanamuhla. Ukuthi umuntu ophuphayo uyakhumbula yini izinkumbulo zobuntwana wokudlala amakhadi, okwedlule kuyatholakala kuye.
Ngezinye izikhathi, kukhona izinto ephusheni ezihlobene nento umphuphi afuna ukuyikhumbula. Isibonelo, uma umuntu ezalwa ngoNovemba, angase aphuphe amakhadi kaNovemba. Angase afune ukucabanga ngekhadi lango-November, noma angase afune ukuthola amakhadi amkhumbuza inyanga yakhe yokuzalwa. Izinto ukuthi zikhumbuze lezi zinto ingase ifakwe nasephusheni. Ngale ndlela, lowo ophuphayo angase angadingeki njalo ukuba abe namakhadi ngokwawo emaphusheni akhe.
Kwabanye abantu, amakhadi ahlotshaniswa nawo uthando nothando. Kwabanye, amakhadi ahlobene nothando. Uma impilo yothando yomphuphi ibonakala iyingxabano emaphusheni akhe, angase afune ukwengeza impilo entsha yothando ohlwini lwakhe lwamaphupho. Uma impilo yamanje yothando iyiphupho ngokwayo, angase afune ukubheka obunye ubudlelwano ohlwini lwakhe lwamaphupho.
Amaphupho ngokudlala amakhadi ngokuvamile ahlanganisa ingqikithi yokuwina. Labo abaphupha ngokudlala amakhadi banephupho lokuwina, kungaba emqhudelwaneni noma emdlalweni wamakhadi. Lapho umphuphi ewina, yena ngokuvamile uzizwa emangalisa. Uma iphupho lihilela umdlalo wamakhadi, lelo phupho lingasho “ukuwina ngamakhadi.”
Amaphupho ngokudlala amakhadi angabhekisa ekuwineni ngendlela ethile. Amanye amaphupho angaba mayelana imali yokuwina noma ngokuwina emdlalweni wamakhadi. Esinye isibonelo somdlalo ongaba uhlobo lomklomelo kungaba imidlalo yokuzingela. Iphupho lingase lisho “ukuphumelela ekuzingeleni,” noma lingase libhekisele emdlalweni ohlanganisa ukucupha noma ukubulala. Kwezinye izimo, kungase kubhekisele ekujaheni.
Kwesinye isikhathi, amaphupho ngokudlala amakhadi angaba ngempilo noma impilo yomphuphi. Uma iphupho okukhathazayo okwamanje, kungase kubhekisele emaphusheni owaphuphayo noma mayelana nempilo yothando okungenzeka ukuthi iyenzeka emaphusheni. Noma, kungase kubhekisele nje ekuphileni kothando okulindile.
Amaphupho ngokudlala amakhadi angabhekisa kwabanye abantu noma imicimbi. Kungenzeka ukuthi amakhadi ayesho okuthile komunye umuntu, futhi umphuphi uyakwazi lokho ephusheni lakhe. Akukhona nje ukuthi umphuphi uyazi incazelo yamakhadi. Kuwukuthi incazelo ingaba ukugxila kwephupho kanye nephupho ngokwalo.
Isifinyezo
Amaphupho ngokudlala amakhadi angaba mayelana nempilo yangaphambilini yomuntu yothando. Ubudlelwano bangaphambilini bungahle bungabi a iphupho kumphuphi, kodwa ingase igxile ephusheni. Kungase kube nesikhathi lapho iphupho lalikhona kugcwaliseka, kodwa kwakungelona—usuku lokugcina emjikelezweni wephupho. Njengamanye amaphupho amaningi, iphupho lingaphela ngokushesha nje lapho lowo ophuphayo elungiselela ukubhekana nalo.