Iphupho Eliphindaphindayo: Incazelo, Ukuchazwa, kanye Nophawu
Abantu abaningi banesenzakalo esiyinqaba sokuphindaphinda amaphupho noma ezesabisa zasebusuku. Into nje ukuthi abazi ukuthi ayini ngempela lawa maphupho noma lezi zinto ezesabisayo zasebusuku. Asho ukuthini la maphupho aphindaphindayo? Lawa maphupho noma izinto ezesabisayo zasebusuku ziyisenzakalo esiyinqaba lapho umuntu ezwa sengathi ingqondo yakhe ibambeke esimweni sokuquleka, futhi ayikwazi ukuhambahamba. Lezi zindaba ziyiqiniso ngoba ziyenzeka kwabanye abantu. Kulokhu, kuzodingeka udlule kulokhu kufunda ukuthi yimaphi amaphupho aphindaphindayo.
Ingabe udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ayini amaphupho?
Isizinda sokuqala kuyodingeka ukugxila kukho ukuhlangana kwakho ngamagama athi “baphuphe"ubusuku." Kuzodingeka uqaphele ukuthi abantu abahlangabezana nalezi zinhlobo zamaphupho bangase babe nombono wabo mayelana ne- incazelo yephupho. Lokhu kuphinde kuchaze ukuthi abantu abathandana namamuvi bangase babe nalo mbono, okungase futhi kusekelwe encazelweni yakho yebinzana elithi “iphupho elibi.” Bese futhi, abanye abantu banombono ochazwe kakhudlwana wegama elithi “okubuhlungu.” Ziningi izindlela zokwehlisa amaphupho akho futhi unqume ukuthi iyiphi inguqulo elungele wena nabanye, kodwa kunezinto ezimbalwa okudingeka uzazi ngaphambi kokuthi uphume uyobheka.
Kungasiza uma ufunda inhloso yamaphupho.
Uma ubheka incazelo yegama elithi “iphupho elibi,” into ebaluleke kakhulu oyodinga ukuyenza ukufunda incwadi inhloso yamaphupho. Kufanele uqonde ukuthi awukwazi ukusebenzisa igama elithi “iphupho elibi” ukuze wazi ukuthi amaphupho ayini. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke umuntu kungenzeka ukuthi abe nencazelo encane yegama, futhi cishe uzoba nomuzwa wokuthi lawa maphupho ayinto ozovuka kuyo. Kungakho kumele ufunde zithini izincazelo zala maphupho aphindelelayo.
Ingabe uke waba namaphupho aphindaphindiwe ezindlu zangasese muva nje?
Benginayo muva nje, futhi yangenza ngacabanga. Kufanele ngitshele othile, noma kuwuphawu nje lokuqwasha? Kule minyaka edlule ngihlangane nabantu abaningi abathi banamaphupho ngezindlu zangasese. Ngokubona kwami laba bantu kufanele bazibheke njengabo omunye wabanenhlanhla. Eqinisweni, iningi abantu abazi ukuthi kunezindlela zokumisa amaphupho aphindaphindayo mayelana nezindlu zangasese. Hhayi-ke, lokho kulungile inqobo nje uma ungasitholi lesi seluleko kumuntu owazi ngaphezu kwakho. Uma ubuzitshela ukuthi amaphupho akho ngezindlu zangasese avamile futhi aphikelela kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuwavimba ukuthi angenzeki, kusho ukuthi nguwe udinga usizo oluthile lochwepheshe. Nakhu ukuthi kungani.
Amaphupho aphindaphindiwe ngezindlu zangasese
Isikhathi esiningi, amaphupho aphindelelayo mayelana nezindlu zangasese kungase kuthiwe ngenxa yempilo engeyinhle. Isibonelo, uma uphuphe ukuthi usendlini yakho yokugezela futhi konke kwakungahambi kahle kusukela ekugcineni kwakho, kungase kungabi ngenxa yokuthi usendlini yokugezela, kodwa kungase kube ngenxa yenkinga ethile yezokwelapha edinga ukunakwa. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukubonana nodokotela ngaphambi kokwenza noma yisiphi isahlulelo mayelana namaphupho akho aphindaphindiwe mayelana nezindlu zangasese. Ungakhathazeki; udokotela akasoze ahlonza amaphupho akho ngezindlu zangasese njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo njenge-schizophrenia noma i-bipolar disorder uma bebona ukuthi awunankinga yengqondo. Ayikho indlela yokusho ukuthi ungubani qaphela kakhulu noma uhlakaniphe ngokwedlulele.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi amaphupho akho aphindelelayo axhumene nezinkinga zakho zamathumbu?
Okokuqala, kungaba nengqondo ukucabanga ukuthi uma uphupha kabi ngezindlu zangasese, kusho ukuthi mhlawumbe unezinkinga ngezibilini zakho. Isixazululo samaphupho aphindelelayo ngezindlu zangasese wukukhumbula ukuthi nabanye abantu banamaphupho abo ngezindlu zangasese. Nokho, abaphuphi ngezindlu zangasese nsuku zonke. Eqinisweni, baba namaphupho ezindlu zangasese kanye nje kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ukuqeda amaphupho aphindaphindiwe mayelana nezindlu zangasese, udinga ukushintsha umbono wakho. Lokhu kungase kusho ukuthi wesaba into engaziwa, into engavamile. Isimo esicashile sidala amaphupho aphindelelayo ngezindlu zangasese. Kufanele uzibophezele ukuthi uzoqala umzamo wokwelapha inkinga ngezindlela eziphelele.
Uma unamaphupho aphindaphindayo okuthi othandekayo usedlulile emhlabeni
Iphupho lakho cishe lizohluka kakhulu inguqulo yeqiniso. Ulimi oluvamile esilusebenzisa nabanye akusho ukuthi sizoqonda noma sihumushe incazelo yamagama abo. Asiqiniseki ngaso sonke isikhathi ngencazelo yangempela yamaphupho ethu.
Ngezinye izikhathi, lezi yizikhathi lapho umuntu ezocabangela izinkumbulo zakhe zomuntu oshonile futhi akhethe uphawu olumelela ukudlula komuntu othandekayo. Abantu abaningi bakhetha ukuthola incazelo yephupho labo futhi bakholelwa ukuthi lihloselwe ukuxwayisa a inkinga yesikhathi esizayo. Bangase bakhethe ukulalela iseluleko sephupho.
Uma unamaphupho aphindaphindiwe ezivivinyo
Cishe uyazi ukuthi izivivinyo ngokwazo aziyona imbangela yamaphupho amabi. Abanye abantu banenkinga yezivivinyo ngoba baphupha kabi ngesikhathi besabhala. Iphupho liyesabeka impela, futhi uvuka kokunye kakhulu izimo ezingakhululekile. Uma ungomunye walaba bantu abahlushwa amaphupho amabi ahlobene nezivivinyo, kunezinto ongazenza ukuze ukhululeke kulawa maphupho amabi.
Imicabango Final
Kungasiza uma uzama ukuphumula ngenkathi ubhala izivivinyo zakho. Lokhu kungaba yinoma yisiphi isimo empilweni yangempela. Ngisho noma ungenalo uvalo mayelana nokuhlolwa, kufanele uzame ukuhlala uzolile. Uma ukwazi ukukhumbula izizathu ukukhathazeka kwakho, uzokwazi ukubhekana nokuhlolwa kwakho ngaphandle kokuzizwa ungehluleki ngokuphelele. Abantu abaningi abahlushwa amaphupho amabi ahlobene nezivivinyo banamaphupho amabi ngoba abakwazi ukuphumula ngokwanele. Qiniseka ukuthi uthola isikhathi usuku nosuku ukuze uphumule futhi uphumule ngaphambi kokuba ufunde. Qinisekisa ukuthi awukazisebenzisi ngokweqile futhi ulale kahle uma unezinkinga ngokugxilisa ingqondo yakho noma ukuthola isikhathi sokuphumula. Ngakho-ke, kungasiza uma ucabanga ukuthatha isihlwathi santambama noma ukuphumula phakathi kobusuku.